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Defining success: what are we doing all this for?

What plays in my car radio is a direct reflection of who is currently in it. If it's Matt and I it's Alt Nation or another contemporary music station on Sirius XM. When you add Cameron, it gets interesting. Veggie Tales, Christmas song request, Halloween song requests, church song requests... My favorite time in the car is when it's just me.My time in the car alone is my time with God. As a busy mom and wife it's often my only time alone with my thoughts without someone or something needing my attention. My radio is either on The Message or a faith based audio book. Currently it's You and Me Forever. Listening to it today, it was on a piece about the purpose of our life as Christians. That it isn't to have happy families, that it isn't to feel good. It was to make disciples. We can't measure our success in any other way than by asking ourselves if we have greatly done what Jesus has asked us to do.This really hit me because I have been NOWHERE near this place in my head. My focus has been in growing my business selfishly for myself or only for the financial benefit of my own family. Adding more weddings. Building an Instagram following. Boosting Facebook ads. Maybe creating a magazine for brides. What colors my brand will be. What image of myself I'll have on my about page on my new website. All of this TOOK OVER my brain this week. Was my business successful? Sure.... But wow all of the opportunity and platform I have that I do not use for Jesus' ultimate purpose for me. In the realm of that success, I have not succeeded at all. I have worked countless hours only to completely fail.I realized my absolute selfish measure of success on Sunday at about 2:00, 10 hours left in the work week. 10 hours left to find success in a week that I've put about 50 hours of work in. None of it was as fulfilling as the moment I asked myself- in any of that, have I made disciples for God? I hadn't. I prayed for God to use me.Later that day, I had small talk with a young pregnant woman at the table next to me at Cracker Barrel. She thought Cameron was cute, he said some weird three year old responses and we laughed, that was the end. When we left, it was really pulling on me to go back in. That she and I weren't done. I knew this was my moment to be successful in Gods eyes, not for my own selfish agenda. I bought her a Christmas gift in the gift shop for her upcoming baby, had the cashier wrap it up, and I sent my three year old back to her table with it while I watched from a distance. He ran to her with the bag (he runs everywhere he's going- oh to have that constant excitement!) and he gave her a big hug and told her God bless. That was truly the whole point so I'm glad he didn't miss that. I watched her get emotional and hug my son so tight. As she held her head in her hands while he ran back to me yelling "I DID IT MAMA!" I felt true success. She mouthed thank you to me and I waved, watching all of her emotion and Cameron's. That two minutes of my week was the worth of my whole week. It was the most important moment of my week. I could've done MUCH less looking back at my week because THAT was my week's success hands down.I will never understand why God put us at that table on that evening, why a conversation struck up with neighboring tables at a restaurant, or why it was so important I go back and show her some surprising kindness with Gods name on it. I don't have to know any of those things. I do know it moved her so much, and that I had an opportunity to teach my son an incredibly valuable life lesson in the same moment. I couldn't ask for a more successful moment as a human being, a mother, a Christian.I encourage all of you to find true success in your upcoming week. Success that has meaning long after our businesses have come and gone. For me, that's the true worth.